Well, I use Tropic Marin and use ... 1/2 cup per gallon... I think I see a theme.
Usually I add just a little less and allow it to mix, while aerating, until it is all dissolved. Then test the salinity with a refractometer. I then add a little at a time until I get the salinity that I want (1.025 for the reef tank, a little less for the FO tanks).
If you are using a hydrometer, stop and buy a refractometer. If you have to use a hydrometer, make sure that your temperature is correct before measuring your salinity, since that instrument is VERY temperature dependent.
I aerate during salt mixing because 1) it is better for the fish to add oxygenated water to the tank and 2) the salt dissolves faster because you are allowing the water to get into equilibrium with CO2 from the air (it acts like a mild acid in water allowing the salt to dissolve quicker).