Kale is popular to try as well. Back when I had a 125 my yellow tang ate that stuff. A variety of these things helps, I think.
As for "scalding", the correct cooking term is http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Blanching">"blanching"</a>. The short version for our needs is: drop it in boiling water, count to 5, drain and immediately wash with cold water. It softens the lettuce up for the fish. For Kale and the other tougher types, I'd say 5-10 seconds. For lettuce like romain, you might want to only do 2 or 3. Longer than 10 for zucchini, I'd think. It's best to bring the water to a boil, move it to the sink where you're going to drain, then drop the lettuce in. Since you're doing it so quickly, maintaining heat under the pan is less important than not boiling the crap out of the lettuce which will make it disintegrate in the tank.
Freezing will do the same thing, just slower. It may be more likely to cause disintegration on the "weaker" lettuce types.